Does Facebook Sell Free Time?

Does Facebook Sell Free Time? Or Can I Have Mine Back At No Charge?

Very recently, I had a realization about how I utilize time and was disgusted enough to write this blog post, which is not necessarily about photography, but related; it does affect my Journey in Photography anyway.
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My Babies…I would love more time to hang out with them.

People regularly ask me questions like, “how do you do everything that you do and when do you find the time?” or “I know you must be so busy because you are involved in doing so many things”.
When I hear these things I laugh inside. Why? Well, believe it or not, while people think that I use every second of every day like the U.S. President would, with his team of scheduling professionals, being busy accomplishing greatness with every second, I actually believe that I waste a great deal of time daily, which to me means that I ain’t as busy as they think. I hope the psychology of this isn’t equivalent to a six feet tall 90 pound adult male claiming to be fat! Maybe my psychologist wife will put me on the couch for a session and we’ll figure it out together.
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My Babies…Wife and Daughter – Always make time for family.

You see, I like to remain busy; busy at my 9 to 5, at the non-profit organizations I volunteer with, at my photography business, with online studies, with playing music, with theatrical dancing, with sports, with being an avid father and family man, and so on and so on. As part of keeping busy, I walk briskly, I commute with a purpose, I engage in extracurricular activities, many in the hopes of helping the less fortunate and giving back to my society. Basically, I’m the energizer bunny with a shinny bald head. However, some activities that keep me busy are not overly important, some actually being meaningless. This then points out the fact that I actually have spare time, but use it unwisely.
 So I compared the amount of time I spend with aimless activities, to the time I spend with activities that really make me happy and work towards me reaching my goals in life. I found that I waste more time than I even realized, in the sense that many of my daily habits and routines do not contribute meaningfully to my growth as a person, father, husband or businessman. I was being busy, but I was being busy in many instances, for example, playing games on my smartphone, getting caught up with watching “Top 10” videos on YouTube, spending ridiculous amounts of time on social media, chat messaging and email, and even simple things like obsessively clearing notifications on my smartphone. Time suckers!
Well, time for a revamp! After realizing change was necessary, I set out on a plan. A plan not to reduce the amount of time that I used keeping busy, but simply to replace these aimless activities with more meaningful ones, including spending more time with my family. That way, I would remain as busy as I always am (which I do like), but will progress more in life using the same amount of time as used before.
 So, let’s start small. I deleted the Facebook app from my smartphone and I only visit Facebook twice a day, at most, from my desktop computer (reduced from upwards of 20 or more times a day because of Facebook notifications on the smartphone app). I turned off all banner notifications on my smartphone, except for business and VIP messaging and calls. This allows me to maintain focus on work, play, family time and other tasks, without the distraction of obsessively pulling out my phone every minute to respond to notifications, or constantly trying to clear the red bubble notifications, which seems to be a Monkish attribute of mine. I have also unsubscribed from the email newsletters that I don’t read regularly (although I want to) and I have scheduled myself to read emails twice a day.
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Uhm…Me…trying to see outside of the box.

Well this is the first phase on my journey to remap and reroute my efforts and time. I must say, though, that it has been amazing thus far, the amount of focus and time I have gained back just from making those small changes above, Facebook being a big one. I’m sure you can agree with how easy it is to get caught up watching funny videos on those websites, only to realize that two hours have gone by.
Phase two will be to work on separating my activities and scheduling them more aggressively so that I only focus on one at a time. I’m an avid multi-tasking professional, but more and more I am becoming a firm believer that some things should not be multi-tasked. Single focus can most often produce greater results.
 If you have made similar adjustments in your life for better productivity and time usage, do share some of your ideas and I will share more of mine in my next blog about time wasting.

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Forget the Bride & Groom, We Want Food!

I haven’t blogged in a while and now I’ve come on here to vent 🙂 or express myself, rather.

Last weekend my team and I were photographing a very lovely wedding; a young couple tied the knot and started their life-long journey of love and togetherness. We spent time with them from the dressing and make-up stage in the morning, straight to the reception during that same night. So many smiling faces and many jokes to be heard; and even the occasional tears of joy from the mother of the groom.

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This photo is not related to this story – just one of my bridal photos that I like 🙂 designed to soften the rage of my rant lol – from Sandra & Francisco’s Wedding 2015

Well, after the ceremony, we whisked the bridal party to a remote location for the formal photo shoot, so that the videographers and the photographers (us) can be creative and create some very special and unique photo and video memories.

Unfortunately, the ceremony ran a bit late, so the photo shoot started late. This means that the reception would also start late.

Nevertheless, we had a wonderful formal photo shoot and I thoroughly enjoyed working with the videographer, who was very positive, creative and energetic. Although I took very ill halfway through the wedding, we still did work together to create magical memories for the bride and groom.

Upon arriving at the reception location and after being wowed by the beautiful decor and setup, I started working my way around the room, photographing the decor and guests.

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I’m stopped immediately by the 5th guest to be photographed, who refused me taking her photo. I’ve been doing this for many years and always respect people’s wish not to be photographed. They always have their reason. However, 9 out of 10 times, I can convince them (with a joke or kind words) to allow me to take their photo. This lady was having none of that! She was the 1 out of 10, but her reason took me for a loop and a spin and a flip upside down and back.

d24de101b20a9b4a130e61e44b7737f5She boldly told me, “Yo keep the people dem tekin’ photos so long and people here hungry! I don wan no picture! I wan food! Ayo didn’ have to be there so long tekin picture and people here hungry! Where allyo gone tekin picture fah when people here wan to eat! I don wan no picture! I wan food”.

Well….my….peace!

Well, my photography contract that my client signed states that I will ALWAYS be professional and courteous while at their event (well it says that because I always am 🙂 it’s true lol). So I kindly responded, “Sorry you had to wait, but I’m sure they will be serving food soon”, and then moved on to photograph the next guest. I wonder if she saw the imaginary devil-red bloodshot that appeared in my eyes or the imaginary steam that flowed out my ears?

What I really wanted to say to her was, “Are you kidding me right now? I thought you were here to celebrate this special day with the bride and groom. This isn’t a family dinner, this is a wedding! They asked you to come to witness their lifetime commitment and you prefer that they miss their photo shoot so that you can eat the food that you are not even paying for? They can’t just do it again tomorrow. I’m glad you asked me not to take your photo, because the bride and groom do not need selfish bad-minded self-absorbed people like you in their wedding photos collection or album”.

Well, I didn’t say any of that although I was thinking it. I was already literally falling over from being sick and then had to deal with this nonsense. Another guy heard the lady from his table and made the same comment to me when I went to photograph him, but he said it jokingly as if to tease me about it.

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This photo is also not related to this story – it’s just another of my bridal photos that I like and still using to soften the rage of my rant lol – Sandra & Francisco’s Wedding 2015

I feel so strongly about this, that the people invited to a wedding need to fully understand their purpose there. Firstly, it should be an honor and a privilege that this couple and their family cherish their relationship with you enough to request your presence during such a special, private and intimate ritual. It’s not the other way around. You are a witness and part of the support team for this young couple’s vow to each other. This is a once in a lifetime event for them. Why must some people behave as though they think the couple is privileged to have them at their wedding? If you don’t care to support them and have the day be all about them, then stay home and eat a bowl of cereal. Nobody will miss you.

Anyway, I’m thankful that this person’s comment and disrespect was voiced to me only and not to the bride and groom or their family. However, despite this rude disruption of my equilibrium, and my illness, it was such a beautiful and memorable wedding.

So now that I have finished venting, do have a wonderful New Years Eve. Have fun, party healthy and safe and ring in the new year in a positive and uplifting manner.

Until next time.

Dame Peters
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Wait…Where Is That Bag?

Tonight I’m off to photograph an event across the waters, on an island not too far away. A private boat will take me to my destination; the boat that is a part of the event.

The event is a senior prom, which kicks off for the students with a short, coastline boat ride on this large, private catamaran power boat.

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Once docked, the students and their dates walk along a boardwalk to a nicely decorated restaurant, where the fun begins.

After arriving on the island, and being greeted by the host, I was driven to the prom location to prepare and setup my gear, after which I was whisked back to the boat to await the students and their dates.

Wow! What beautiful dresses and suits these couples are sporting. I felt under-dressed in my company polo shirt and dress pants; but then again, it’s their night to shine. So I tucked my camera bag away on the boat and got to work.

Capturing their arrivals and moments during the short boat ride, their disembark at the docking spot and journey along the boardwalk, it was time to shoot their formals upon arriving at the prom location.

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Strobes set, spectators cautioned about flash photography at this point and the couples are invited one by one to have their portraiture taken under studio lights.

Great! All is going well. The music is good, the dialogue is great between the guests and myself and I’m enjoying what I love; photography.

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But wait, where is my camera bag with my spare CF Card, extra speed light batteries, business cards, studio booking book, battery charger, extra DSLR battery and all of the extras I keep handy during every shoot?

OH NOOOOOO!!! ITS STILL ON THE BOAT! It’s now dark and the boat sailed back to its home across the ocean hours ago. Oh boy! What a thing to have happen to anyone at a shoot over 30 minutes across the ocean! I really liked that bag 😊.

Don’t panic…don’t panic.

Continuing the night like nothing happened (except for alerting the host, so she could phone the boat captain to secure my bag), I was forced to improvise once the batteries in my speed-light had depleted.

Now, I have never had something like this happen to me during a shoot, but it was a very valuable lesson of keeping a close eye and constant track of gear at all times.

The captain did secure my bag, which I later collected, missing nothing…thank GOD!

Even with this minor, and borderline major hiccup, this was an enjoyable shoot. The guests all seemed to have had fun and I was happy to capture their special memory.

Until next time.

Dame Peters
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