Does Facebook Sell Free Time?

Does Facebook Sell Free Time? Or Can I Have Mine Back At No Charge?

Very recently, I had a realization about how I utilize time and was disgusted enough to write this blog post, which is not necessarily about photography, but related; it does affect my Journey in Photography anyway.
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My Babies…I would love more time to hang out with them.

People regularly ask me questions like, “how do you do everything that you do and when do you find the time?” or “I know you must be so busy because you are involved in doing so many things”.
When I hear these things I laugh inside. Why? Well, believe it or not, while people think that I use every second of every day like the U.S. President would, with his team of scheduling professionals, being busy accomplishing greatness with every second, I actually believe that I waste a great deal of time daily, which to me means that I ain’t as busy as they think. I hope the psychology of this isn’t equivalent to a six feet tall 90 pound adult male claiming to be fat! Maybe my psychologist wife will put me on the couch for a session and we’ll figure it out together.
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My Babies…Wife and Daughter – Always make time for family.

You see, I like to remain busy; busy at my 9 to 5, at the non-profit organizations I volunteer with, at my photography business, with online studies, with playing music, with theatrical dancing, with sports, with being an avid father and family man, and so on and so on. As part of keeping busy, I walk briskly, I commute with a purpose, I engage in extracurricular activities, many in the hopes of helping the less fortunate and giving back to my society. Basically, I’m the energizer bunny with a shinny bald head. However, some activities that keep me busy are not overly important, some actually being meaningless. This then points out the fact that I actually have spare time, but use it unwisely.
 So I compared the amount of time I spend with aimless activities, to the time I spend with activities that really make me happy and work towards me reaching my goals in life. I found that I waste more time than I even realized, in the sense that many of my daily habits and routines do not contribute meaningfully to my growth as a person, father, husband or businessman. I was being busy, but I was being busy in many instances, for example, playing games on my smartphone, getting caught up with watching “Top 10” videos on YouTube, spending ridiculous amounts of time on social media, chat messaging and email, and even simple things like obsessively clearing notifications on my smartphone. Time suckers!
Well, time for a revamp! After realizing change was necessary, I set out on a plan. A plan not to reduce the amount of time that I used keeping busy, but simply to replace these aimless activities with more meaningful ones, including spending more time with my family. That way, I would remain as busy as I always am (which I do like), but will progress more in life using the same amount of time as used before.
 So, let’s start small. I deleted the Facebook app from my smartphone and I only visit Facebook twice a day, at most, from my desktop computer (reduced from upwards of 20 or more times a day because of Facebook notifications on the smartphone app). I turned off all banner notifications on my smartphone, except for business and VIP messaging and calls. This allows me to maintain focus on work, play, family time and other tasks, without the distraction of obsessively pulling out my phone every minute to respond to notifications, or constantly trying to clear the red bubble notifications, which seems to be a Monkish attribute of mine. I have also unsubscribed from the email newsletters that I don’t read regularly (although I want to) and I have scheduled myself to read emails twice a day.
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Uhm…Me…trying to see outside of the box.

Well this is the first phase on my journey to remap and reroute my efforts and time. I must say, though, that it has been amazing thus far, the amount of focus and time I have gained back just from making those small changes above, Facebook being a big one. I’m sure you can agree with how easy it is to get caught up watching funny videos on those websites, only to realize that two hours have gone by.
Phase two will be to work on separating my activities and scheduling them more aggressively so that I only focus on one at a time. I’m an avid multi-tasking professional, but more and more I am becoming a firm believer that some things should not be multi-tasked. Single focus can most often produce greater results.
 If you have made similar adjustments in your life for better productivity and time usage, do share some of your ideas and I will share more of mine in my next blog about time wasting.

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Why I Love To Photograph Weddings

Ever since my organic leap into the world of professional photography, I have sampled many genres in the art; portraitures, events, nature, landscapes, fine art, architectural and even food and product photography. All have become special to me in one way or another, but one in particular captures my heart and love. That one is wedding photography.

The Wedding of Christina & Kevin – 2011 (Shot with Team Photoshop)

Wondering why? Well so did I when I realized the specific affinity was a reality. Well, let me shed some light.

Firstly, I’m a sucker for story telling and nothing is more captivating than a love story. Some people will argue that some good old drama is more captivating, although you do find some drama at weddings…but that’s for another post. From the first meeting to the engagement, special moments and the wedding, the love story grows everyday.

My first consultation with the bride and groom is most important to me. Although we talk business, pass a few jokes around here and there while getting to know each other, my main goal at that meeting is to learn about their connection and to find that spark in their love story. As a professional photographer, I cannot tell the story of their love, if I have no idea about who they are and what their union means to them. That would be like putting every bride and groom into a box, shaking it up, then handing them a photo album of their wedding showing their love story the way I think it should be. This first meeting is a joy, although it presents a challenge for me to use my knowledge, skills and experience to really capture the true meaning of their love for each other in photographic memories. I like that challenge!

Wedding Decor – Kesha & Clifford’s Wedding – 2012

On the day of the wedding, that’s when I get really excited and nervous at the same time. Why excited? I finally get to do what I love while making the bride and groom happy. Why nervous? The concern that I can fail always presents itself, although not very strong. Also there is the pressure that the couple is depending on me capture this very special day that will only happen once; there are no do-overs.

It’s very fun moving around the ceremony, reception, dressing and bridals, capturing the candid moments of laughter or joyful tears, each time thinking to myself, “Wow, the bride and groom would never see this happening except for in their wedding photos”. It’s fun mingling with the children and making them smile, or getting the groomsmen in their best GQ poses. I get the sense that I am part of the wedding experience for the bride and groom and their guests, and I take that so seriously. It’s an honor really.

The Wedding of Thelma & Nano – 2013

I find, though, that wedding photography is not just about the photography. The bride and groom’s happiness comes first, then the photography comes after. There have been weddings where I realized that something was going wrong, that an important function at the wedding was not manned by anyone. One glance at the bride or groom and it was immediately clear that they were growing concerns about this unmanned function. Because of this growing problem, genuine looks of happiness would be hard to get from the couple. What do I do? I man that unmanned function myself. Yep! I have been the DJ at weddings, the bridesmaid, the decorator, the gardener (this is a funny story for a whole different post lol), the MC, the organizer, you name it! People have asked me why I would do those things when I wasn’t paid to do them. My response as always is that the bride and groom have paid me to capture beautiful memories for them. If they are unhappy about what is happening or not happening around them, I will not be able to capture any beautiful memories, which I pride myself in doing. So I love being versatile! It certainly helps to get the perfect story captured.

When it’s all said and done, and I sit in front of my computer reviewing the wedding photos and molding the story, I again feel joy. I tell people that I care as much about their photos and memories as they do, believe it or not. I cherish those photos. I cherish those memories and I embody them. I try to envision how the bride and groom will react when they see each photos. I try to estimate the emotions they may go through when they hear the song I have chosen to create their picture slideshow. I love details and the couples appreciate it.

The Wedding of Jessica and Marlon – 2014

At the end of it all, when I deliver the custom designed and printed DVD or picture slideshow or wedding album, I feel like I’m giving away a part of me, an original work of art, my precious baby.

So why do I love to photograph weddings? Because I love capturing, creating and telling love stories, I love the challenge, I love making couples happy by presenting them with something tangible from their wedding day that they can enjoy for their entire lifetime, I love being a part of the experience of their unique story and I love happiness and love in general. Yep, I’m a sucker for love stories.

The Wedding of Tekeisha and Danny – 2015

The photos you see above are from a few of the weddings that I have done over the years; I have added one from each year for the last five years. From my humble beginning of second-shooting with some of the greats in Virgin Islands photography, to where I am today, as a full fledge and independent photography business.

Maybe your wedding will be the next one that I capture with my growing team of professionals. Just know that I care about your story and your memories. They will certainly be safe with me and my camera 🙂

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Until next time.

Dame Peters
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Forget the Bride & Groom, We Want Food!

I haven’t blogged in a while and now I’ve come on here to vent 🙂 or express myself, rather.

Last weekend my team and I were photographing a very lovely wedding; a young couple tied the knot and started their life-long journey of love and togetherness. We spent time with them from the dressing and make-up stage in the morning, straight to the reception during that same night. So many smiling faces and many jokes to be heard; and even the occasional tears of joy from the mother of the groom.

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This photo is not related to this story – just one of my bridal photos that I like 🙂 designed to soften the rage of my rant lol – from Sandra & Francisco’s Wedding 2015

Well, after the ceremony, we whisked the bridal party to a remote location for the formal photo shoot, so that the videographers and the photographers (us) can be creative and create some very special and unique photo and video memories.

Unfortunately, the ceremony ran a bit late, so the photo shoot started late. This means that the reception would also start late.

Nevertheless, we had a wonderful formal photo shoot and I thoroughly enjoyed working with the videographer, who was very positive, creative and energetic. Although I took very ill halfway through the wedding, we still did work together to create magical memories for the bride and groom.

Upon arriving at the reception location and after being wowed by the beautiful decor and setup, I started working my way around the room, photographing the decor and guests.

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I’m stopped immediately by the 5th guest to be photographed, who refused me taking her photo. I’ve been doing this for many years and always respect people’s wish not to be photographed. They always have their reason. However, 9 out of 10 times, I can convince them (with a joke or kind words) to allow me to take their photo. This lady was having none of that! She was the 1 out of 10, but her reason took me for a loop and a spin and a flip upside down and back.

d24de101b20a9b4a130e61e44b7737f5She boldly told me, “Yo keep the people dem tekin’ photos so long and people here hungry! I don wan no picture! I wan food! Ayo didn’ have to be there so long tekin picture and people here hungry! Where allyo gone tekin picture fah when people here wan to eat! I don wan no picture! I wan food”.

Well….my….peace!

Well, my photography contract that my client signed states that I will ALWAYS be professional and courteous while at their event (well it says that because I always am 🙂 it’s true lol). So I kindly responded, “Sorry you had to wait, but I’m sure they will be serving food soon”, and then moved on to photograph the next guest. I wonder if she saw the imaginary devil-red bloodshot that appeared in my eyes or the imaginary steam that flowed out my ears?

What I really wanted to say to her was, “Are you kidding me right now? I thought you were here to celebrate this special day with the bride and groom. This isn’t a family dinner, this is a wedding! They asked you to come to witness their lifetime commitment and you prefer that they miss their photo shoot so that you can eat the food that you are not even paying for? They can’t just do it again tomorrow. I’m glad you asked me not to take your photo, because the bride and groom do not need selfish bad-minded self-absorbed people like you in their wedding photos collection or album”.

Well, I didn’t say any of that although I was thinking it. I was already literally falling over from being sick and then had to deal with this nonsense. Another guy heard the lady from his table and made the same comment to me when I went to photograph him, but he said it jokingly as if to tease me about it.

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This photo is also not related to this story – it’s just another of my bridal photos that I like and still using to soften the rage of my rant lol – Sandra & Francisco’s Wedding 2015

I feel so strongly about this, that the people invited to a wedding need to fully understand their purpose there. Firstly, it should be an honor and a privilege that this couple and their family cherish their relationship with you enough to request your presence during such a special, private and intimate ritual. It’s not the other way around. You are a witness and part of the support team for this young couple’s vow to each other. This is a once in a lifetime event for them. Why must some people behave as though they think the couple is privileged to have them at their wedding? If you don’t care to support them and have the day be all about them, then stay home and eat a bowl of cereal. Nobody will miss you.

Anyway, I’m thankful that this person’s comment and disrespect was voiced to me only and not to the bride and groom or their family. However, despite this rude disruption of my equilibrium, and my illness, it was such a beautiful and memorable wedding.

So now that I have finished venting, do have a wonderful New Years Eve. Have fun, party healthy and safe and ring in the new year in a positive and uplifting manner.

Until next time.

Dame Peters
Dame Peters Photography
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Drifting [a Place of SOLACE…]

Growing up in the East End of the island (Tortola, British Virgin Islands) by the water side, a boat, dingy, surfboard or something else that floats was always close by…for fishing, short trips to Red Rock (a formation of rocks and reef in the middle of the ocean, about a half of a mile from land) to collect whelks and conch or just to sail around with friends. We learned so much about the sea world in those days just by spending so many of our daily hours in the sea.

Cherished memories!

"Drifting" by Dame Peters

"Drifting" by Dame Peters © 2012 Prodigy X Photography

[a Place of SOLACE]

Location: East End, Tortola, British Virgin Islands

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Enjoy!

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Beach Photo Contest: My Entry

During the week, a local media house launched an online contest called the “Beach Photo Contest”. Entries started rolling in and so many beautiful photos of the paradise I call home were now on display for the world to see. I was excited and although I was late, I decided to share my work, not just as an entry into the contest, but I wanted to share my captures of our Virgin Islands beauty.  Take a moment to view my photo and if you like it, click “LIKE” on it as your vote on Facebook.

The Golden Hour

The Golden Hour by Dame Peters | © 2012 Prodigy X Photography

Photo Description:

THE GOLDEN HOUR:  “There is a moment in everyday when the sun and the ocean creates a golden path in the sand just for the lovers to stroll…the golden hour. Its God’s gift to us everyday. Don’t waste it.”

Location:

Long Bay Beach, Long Bay, Tortola, British Virgin Islands

Enjoy!

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Self Destruction [a ColorLESS world…]

This photo is the first in my album “a ColorLESS world…” and hopefully invokes emotions that you will share in the comments section. Let me know how this photos and caption makes you feel. Is this a place of solace or a means to an end?

Enjoy!

"Self Destruction" by Dame Peters

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A Photographer’s Approach: At The Club

Photo: "TAKE IT LIGHT" by Dame Peters © 2011 Prodigy X Photography

He walks over to the sexy lady in the club, while checking out her back lighting and bopping his head to the music. Oh how he wants to drop her aperture real low and adjust her ISO. He’s taking his cool time though, walking smooth on his slow shutter swag. He walks up to her and gets straight to the point, as he whispers in her ear, “Hi, you’re beautiful. I have a 70-200mm, lets get outta here”.

Her face turns red as she blushes but she decided to adjust the white balance of the conversation with her reply, “I heard you only have a 50mm”. Surprised and outwitted, he decides to take it up a notch and show her the goods. Out of nowhere, and a very bold move, he whips out his Canon….5D Mark III. She’s impressed and says with a smile, “Mmmm, very nice piece of equipment”. He smiles cunningly and replies, “Wait till you feel its release action, you will enjoy its focus points, oh and I shoot full manual”.

A worried look came over her face and she looks around the club, while she ponders, “Full manual? That could cause some trouble”. But she doesn’t often see a Mark III at the club or anywhere else for that matter. She would be the envy of her girlfriends, who have only seen 7D’s. A light bulb goes off in her head as she figures out what to do. She looks back at him with a confident look, pulls out a rain-sleeve from her purse and says, “Let’s get outta here”. ~~ To Be Continued!

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